I first saw reference to your website in today’s Advertiser. What a joy to see young couples expressing their opinions regarding Asian/Haole relationships/marriages. You know, this “club” is much larger than we know. I hope that others will “reach out and express themselves.”
At first, it appears that your website revolves around “young married couples.” That is a natural beginning, but please understand, that this story does not begin with the current generation. It started long ago. There are many stories to be told.
I would suggest to you, that you need to expand your website, to allow entries, from older folks, who have struggled thru the generations, for acceptance. There are many wonderful, and funny stories to be told. My wife(Vietnamese) and I (registered Haole…lol) will tell our stories, only when the website is opened up from 2 viewpoints:….(1) when older Asian/Caucasion relationships/marriages are encouraged to provide input/stories, and (2) When you understand that relationships/opinions travel in TWO(2) directions….this is a general opinion from my first reading of your website….it appears that your opinions of your relationships are taken only from the Asian/female side….whereas, the Caucasian/male side is left to cooperate/agree with your opinions….you need to “open up” the conversation…there are 2 sides, eh?…and, what is this stuff about parents that won’t call the groom by his first name for 2 years?…is that a form of genocide?…just kidding, but, hey….when do you gals start standing up to your parents?…Here is an axiom, that my wife reminded me of, just 2 days ago….”Ed, I KNOW you better than your parents do.”….as usual, she is right.
Here is the point….wives/husbands have a lifetime to grow together. They know each other, each step along the way. So, how can you let a parent interfere, and not regard your wife/husband as a human being for 2 years? Shame on you!!!
OK, I’ve made a couple of points. I’m a haole, who is old enough to be one of your parents. My wife is Vietnamese. We have a Vietnamese daughter, and a haole son. We love both, with our hearts and souls. My wife and I live in Honolulu. Our daughter is married to a haole in Seattle. Our son, a haole, lives in Orange County, CA. As a family, we are spread apart by the ocean, but we are very close. We travel frequently to see each other.
We would love to see an expansion of this community, to include gatherings, which would expand the relationships/horizons of members and our family. For possibilities of future meetings, please contact us.
My wife and I are older than most of you, and we would love to share our stories. However, since we are older than most of you, we ask that you develop a section, for “aunties and uncles”, whereby older Asian/Causcasion couples may express their opinions/feelings.
Thank you, so much, for all that you’ve done, so far.
Regards and love,
Ut and Ed Johnson
P.S. scheduled picnics/ BBQ’s/beach activities should be planned….eh?
